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That Time I Took a Class to Help Me Find Love

That Time I Took a Class to Help Me Find Love

Note:  As you read my story below, know that this very class is kicking off again in a few weeks.  If you’re interested, I highly recommend you apply soon as it will fill up….

A few weeks back, I went on a work trip to my corporate headquarters with a few of my favorite colleagues. We (as usual) tore up the town and had a complete blast. Seriously, how can you not have a great time in Southern California.

With that, I got home the next day and got a really nice call from one of the guys. We speak most days, but on this day he said to me… “Can I ask you a personal question?” And, I usually know this question… I can see it a mile away.  So, of course, I said yes, and he asked the question I’ve received so many times from kind people over the years.

“Why are you single?”

And then, the conversation began and I shared what I believe to be my reasons. Yes, I’m single. Yes, I’ve been single for a while. Yes, my heart has been crushed a few times. I don’t get out enough. I never meet anyone interesting… and the list continued.

As is typical, he shared that my colleagues were talking about me and how they hope I meet someone awesome. Too kind.

I definitely recognize that I’m single, but truthfully, I don’t think about it all that often. I don’t dwell on it, and honestly, my life is pretty awesome, even without someone to share it with. But when someone brings it up, it sort of hangs around for a few.

That night, it was stuck in my head. I couldn’t help thinking about it. So, I did what we all do… I went on Instagram to distract myself. I mean, how fun are Instastories, afterall? Hours of amusement right at your fingertips.

And, as though the universe was sending me a sign, I clicked on the stories posted by Rachel Dealto. You guys know Rachel, right? She’s one of the matchmakers on Married at First Sight and incredibly relatable. Well, that very same day, Rachel announced via instatories that she was accepting applications for a virtual love coaching class called Unlock Love.  If timing of the conversation I had + this announcement wasn’t a sign that I needed to participate, I don’t know what is. I quickly applied, and waited to see if I’d be accepted. I wondered if Rachel would be up to the challenge of accepting a super-single girl like me… well, she did!

In my life, I’ve taken classes on how to knit, how to make tamales, and to learn so many other life skills. It only makes sense that I’d take a class designed to help me in this area of my life as well… and who better to engage than an expert in the field from one of my favorite shows!

The class is conducted via video chat, led by Rachel and takes you through six weeks of sessions designed to help you find the love you are looking for.  From incorporating a daily mantra to rewiring negative thoughts to rewriting your online dating profile, Rachel sets you up for success in the (what can be an intimidating, at least to me) dating world.  I keep a busy schedule, but you’d best believe my butt was in class every week, regardless of what else was going on!  So worth it!

Every week, I completed “homework”, sharing back with Rachel my thoughts, history, and goals. Reviewing my work, Rachel provided with suggestions and guidance and an opportunity to contribute to the weekly video sessions as well. I know, no one likes video, I know, but it really helps you to be part of the experience. Focused, present, and connecting with the rest of the group. I promise, it’s fine.  The picture below is from one of the live sessions with Rachel sharing her wisdom.

In addition to the weekly sessions and completing homework, Rachel also assigned each of us an accountability partner. I can’t tell you how much help this partner has been to me! We’re still in touch today, and it’s nice to know that there’s someone going through a lot of the same things… and there to listen to your process. We also have a private Facebook group which has helped me connect with a few others in the class. Seriously, the group dynamic rocks. It’s like I have my own set of cheerleaders now rooting me on my next steps with this process.

And, Unlock Love also gave me an opportunity to refresh my vision board, with a specific spin toward finding love!  By now, you know I’m pretty artsy, so I went all out… especially since this thing is hanging on my wall!

My big takeaway from this class: If I never make time for love, I’m never going to find it.   Ultimately, while I have a ton to offer, he’s not just going to show up at my door (and we all know I don’t answer my door to strangers anyway). So, this class was really the first step toward finding an awesome man to share my life with and frankly, to letting go of some of the nonsense that’s been holding me back.

While I haven’t found Mr. Right quite yet, I feel like I have a greater understanding of what I need, what I want, and some new tools about how to find him.

If you’re looking to Unlock Love (whether single, married, or in a relationship), this class is for you! Rachel is kicking off another round of Unlock Love in November. Click here to review the application/agenda and to apply. Be sure to tell her I sent you! 🙂

If you’re interested in learning more about the class, visit Rachel’s site here and/or feel free to email me directly at nothankstocake at gmail dot com or comment below.  Happy to answer any questions, y’all!

xoxo

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That Time I Took a Class to Help Me Find Love originally appeared on No Thanks to Cake on 10/25/2017.

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Note:  As you read my story below, know that this very class is kicking off again in a few weeks.  If you’re interested, I highly recommend you apply soon as it will fill up…. A few weeks back, I went on a work trip to my corporate headquarters with a few of my favorite colleagues….

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Living Offended

Living Offended

It’s embarrassing to think about how long I lived my life looking for reasons to be offended, but that was my way of life for a long time. It’s a way of life for many people, and I think that as awesome as social media is, it plays a major role in facilitating that on a daily basis. Be honest. Have you ever wanted to scream at someone on Facebook because their posts are so ridiculous? Have you wanted to do that today? We all know that hurting people hurt people, and I was guilty of that too. I just didn’t realize how often I assumed people would hate me, judge me, and dislike me. Don’t get me wrong. There are people walking around on this earth who can’t stand me. There are people who don’t even know me who don’t like me, but for the most part, people think I’m pretty cool. I think I’m pretty cool, and I’ve spent the last several years trying to be the kind of friend I want to have. Am I perfect? Uh…no, but I kind of just expect people to like me. I definitely don’t go into new environments expecting people to […]
It’s embarrassing to think about how long I lived my life looking for reasons to be offended, but that was my way of life for a long time. It’s a way of life for many people, and I think that as awesome as social media is, it plays a major role in facilitating that on a daily basis. Be honest. Have you ever wanted to scream at someone on Facebook because their posts are so ridiculous? Have you wanted to do that today? We all know that hurting people hurt people, and I was guilty of that too. I just didn’t realize how often I assumed people would hate me, judge me, and dislike me. Don’t get me wrong. There are people walking around on this earth who can’t stand me. There are people who don’t even know me who don’t like me, but for the most part, people think I’m pretty cool. I think I’m pretty cool, and I’ve spent the last several years trying to be the kind of friend I want to have. Am I perfect? Uh…no, but I kind of just expect people to like me. I definitely don’t go into new environments expecting people to […]

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I’m Married!

I’m Married!

The last few weeks have been some of the most exciting of my life, and it feels good to be falling into a routine with my new husband. He moved into my place, and we’ve done a lot to make it feel like ours, not just mine. Our wedding was amazing. It was pretty casual, but it was still such a big ordeal! My new sister-in-law, Jessie, coordinated everything for me, which made it easy for me to relax. I still felt stressed leading up to the day because there was so much non-stop attention on me, but I was grateful too. Most people in our lives who love us were all in one place for the weekend, and we made memories that I’ll definitely carry with me for a lifetime. It was cool to see our families together too, and we all danced the night away. Even my mom cut a rug for a few minutes thanks to my sister and one of my uncles. Dad was here for a week, which was nice. I get to see everyone else pretty regularly, so it was a treat to spend time with Dad. He was really flexible too, which I […]
The last few weeks have been some of the most exciting of my life, and it feels good to be falling into a routine with my new husband. He moved into my place, and we’ve done a lot to make it feel like ours, not just mine. Our wedding was amazing. It was pretty casual, but it was still such a big ordeal! My new sister-in-law, Jessie, coordinated everything for me, which made it easy for me to relax. I still felt stressed leading up to the day because there was so much non-stop attention on me, but I was grateful too. Most people in our lives who love us were all in one place for the weekend, and we made memories that I’ll definitely carry with me for a lifetime. It was cool to see our families together too, and we all danced the night away. Even my mom cut a rug for a few minutes thanks to my sister and one of my uncles. Dad was here for a week, which was nice. I get to see everyone else pretty regularly, so it was a treat to spend time with Dad. He was really flexible too, which I […]

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I’m Getting Married Next Week!

I know I’ve said it already, but I’m getting married next week!!!!!!! Have I ever told you how we met? I shared the short version on our wedding website, michaelandkenlie.com, but I thought I’d share it here too since this site is permanent. The end of 2015 was a time of change and growth for Michael and me individually. In early December I told God that I was tired of hearing myself whine to Him about wanting to be in a healthy relationship with a Godly man. I said to God, “You know my heart, and You gave me these desires. I’m surrendering them to you right now. This is not my biggest prayer anymore. I want to fulfill your purpose, and so be enough for me. Satisfy me.” The next day Michael walked into my church for the first time. I didn’t meet him that weekend, but over the next few months I would greet him on Sunday mornings when he walked in. In February we both joined a Bible study group, and a few weeks in I jokingly admitted that pizza had been my Valentine that year. Later during the same group he mentioned that pizza was his Valentine […]

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New Kids on the Block, Change and Weekend Plans

Last week was a tough week at work because my boss left. I sulked about it because I was his favorite and vice versa. I think he’ll go on to do different things that are more suited to him, but I could live without all of the changes at work right now. There’s major change happening in every area of my life right now – most of them good. It’s just a lot to take in all at once. By the end of the week I was wiped out, and my plan was to relax at home Friday night. It didn’t happen like that though, which is great, because I had a wonderful weekend. Friday night a childhood dream came true for me. I loved New Kids on the Block from the time I was 10 years old until much later than I was willing to admit. Jordan was my favorite, and he still is! I wasn’t allowed to listen to them growing up, but I always told myself that someday I’d see them in concert. Twenty-five years later it happened. I knew they were coming to New Orleans because the venue is in my neighborhood, and my friends and I seriously considered […]

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